Martin's South Korea Living!

Friday, March 31, 2006

I MAY NEED TO FIGURE OUT WHAT I WANT TO BE WHEN I GROW UP

I know when people read what I write, the first question before they begin is, "what was the high point of Martin's day"? So without any further suspense I will present my high point of the day.

I am standing on the corner waiting for the school shuttle bus to pick me up when these young kids come up to me. Instead of the usual "My name is ...", they say, "What is your name"? I tell them, "Martin. What's your name"? They reply with, "My name is ...". Then they giggle and laugh and walk away. When they are a bit away they throw in more English. "I'm sorry". "I'm sorry" is one of the two most popular phrases for kids here. The other is, "Oh my god".

That's it. The high point of the day.

The other good thing that happened is I got an email this morning from the man from Australia I went out with last week inviting me to lunch at his place on Sunday. Am I going? Is the pope Catholic?

Why did my adult student quit? I didn't visit her today but asked Kelly. The answer is, "she just did". You really can learn a lot about your school with such informative tidbits.

It's 3PM and time for kindergarten class. I'm just standing there because it's pointless to even try. Kelly is in the room saying, "why don't you teach them something"? I answer, "because they don't listen to a word I say or they call me stupid". Duh! I told her that I can't teach that class. Is she brain damaged? Perhaps. Then Jason (the Korean teacher) comes in and Kelly leaves. He can't teach them either. If he can't and he speaks their language, then how the hell can I? She then drops in with 2 progress reports for 2 of the kids. I look at them. They were both all A's or B+'s. That includes the category of listening. I've never seen these progress reports and nobody asked me anything.

At 3:30 Miss Moon brings cookies, chips, and soda into the classroom. At least the eating kept them busy for 20 minutes until they left. Obviously something is up as this is new.

At 4PM the 2 classes are combined for Jason and I to test them. Kelly tells Jason (in Korean and he tells me) that she wants the kids to do well on this test. They have to. I'm ready to quit. What a joke. He's giving them the answers. I am writing answers on the board because of the stupidity of it all. One of the sections gives them the word in Korean and they're supposed to write it in English. Ha, ha. A bunch of them don't even know the letters of the alphabet. I write the word in Korean on the board and then the English translation beside it. When I'm not doing that, I'm walking around the room spelling out words for the kids to write. I had to give them dictation. I was to say simple sentences and they're to write them down. I use things like, "My face is red". After a few of those Jason says to just give them words. One of the words I gave them was "TV". Jason told me that a few of them couldn't spell it. I wanted so badly to just walk out of the "school" and never return.

It seems that they are losing students (I don't know the numbers, I just see new kids come, old kids go). Kelly is panicking and getting complaints from the parents. The parents will complain about anything. So her plan is to give out excellent progress reports and she gives pizza and soda to every class today after their "test". In my 6PM class I was asked to "testify" them. Here is my testimony. Nobody asked me for their grades. I didn't turn any in. No one cares what I say or if these kids learn anything.

Kelly says we are going to have to have a meeting (her, Jason, and I) to discuss things. I won't hold my breath. And we should have discussed this before today's joke. It's too difficult to feel motivated when crap like this goes on. It seems that each day this week I've just felt that this is stupider than the day before. Today was rock bottom. At least I hope it was. The situation is zapping my desire to stick it out at this school and not leave her high and dry. Today was the first time I've actually seriously started thinking about moving on. I had told myself I would see how things are in June, but I don't want this. If I'm going to teach, I want to succeed. I just know so much more now (or course) than I did when I was looking for a job. The question I'd ask now is, "what is the objective of your school and how do you deal with whining parents"?

Respect is supposed to be important here. I have little or no respect for the place I work and that's bad. I'll be pondering my situation carefully in the next little while. Payday is Friday. I'll then take it month to month. I won't leave in the middle of a month because I want to be paid, but I'm not staying put if the situation doesn't get better. I told Kelly that if she doesn't let me know what's going on, I can't help her. I'm willing to go the extra mile and be a "team" player, but I can't force the situation and I know there are things about the culture here I don't understand. But one of the things she said to me on the phone during the interview when I was in Austin was she wanted someone older to "help" her and who she could discuss things with. That was her big selling feature to me. It's not happening. She has too many problems (I think) of both the family kind and monetary kind. She says the school financial situation is fine, but her personal finances aren't the best. Her husband is in the army and makes dirt so that can't be easy. I'm torn between wanting to help and wanting to run away from here. I can't force my help on her, and if I don't understand the inner workings of this business I can't just offer advice.

I was going to ask Kelly to call the Yoga place and let them know that I wanted to sign up and start on Monday. To hell with that. I'll just take a taxi there on Monday and sign up myself through my exceptional silent acting and pointing at their flyer. As for the bar tomorrow night, if I go I'll find it myself. I have absolutely no desire to ask for her help.

Today I asked who was going to pick me up tomorrow for my tutoring classes. She said Jack. I told her that Jack told me he was going to Seoul with her husband tomorrow for the weekend. She confirmed this with Miss Moon. She said someone will be here to get me. We'll see.

So, am I a happy camper? Not at the moment. I can't wait for next weekend and my journey to Seoul. That will be fun. The big city. The subway. American food. A bookstore with English books. I'll probably even get a reasonably priced cell phone because the one I use has a battery life of about 20 minutes and constantly disconnects in the middle of conversations. It's a little pathetic to be looking forward to next weekend already.

I suppose I should have been a dentist. Now that's a job one can really sink their teeth into.

Thursday, March 30, 2006

THURSDAYS ARE CRAPPY TEACHING DAYS

It's official. I'm declaring Thursday the worst school day of the week. The kids in middle school are like zombies. They are so tired that they can barely get their heads off their desks. Friday is better because they know the next day is Saturday but Thursday only means another day of school. I absolutely hate it.

I took out my book of crummy jokes and tried to do a few with the 6PM class. It was hopeless. I think if they weren't so dead it might have worked. But all I got were blank looks. "Do you understand me"? is met with silence. I like these kids so I hate when they're not mentally there.

It seems tomorrow I'm running around to different classes to test the kids for their monthly test. Kelly told me this while I was in the 6PM class. When she left the room, I asked the kids if they got tested every month, because I didn't remember a test in February. They had never heard of a monthly test either. It's so nice to be informed and prepared. Not to mention I have no idea how to grade the kids. I really have no idea how much they should know. I could easily fail everyone because they don't know enough, but that wouldn't be fair. Maybe they are fine for their level. I hate this disorganization.

In my 5PM class the kids told me they were supposed to have a test today. I said no, I hadn't told them about a test. But they went on that they did and I should go check so I asked Kelly. She told me to test them. Yup, just whip up a test. I got them to read and then I asked questions. Then I made up numbers and that was their grade. I have no idea what will become of it. I stuck it in the attendance sheet. It will probably end up in the garbage. I can't grade if I don't know the standards. Why wouldn't a person who runs a school just know that? (That was a rhetorical question).

I did give the kids at 4PM a test today on my own. I scrambled up the alphabet and got them to write down the letter I said. I did all 26 letters and half the class got under 10 of them right. It's scary. They can't read. What's happened is they just go through the textbook without regard for making things stick. I was doing that but I've decided it's stupid. It's not easy to teach people to read but I'll work at it with these kids. I have them twice a week so I have no idea what they do with the other teacher but I'm sure they're not learning anything.

I am just getting a bad feeling when I'm in the school. It's not a happy atmosphere that I'm picking up, but maybe that's just me. I have no idea what I should be striving for in terms of teaching. I'm just winging it. I learned tonight that my adult student had quit. I don't know why because Kelly had an "emergency" to deal with and couldn't tell me. I am curious since just a week ago she told me she wanted to learn to speak like me. I may go visit her at work tomorrow (she works near the school) to find out why. I was just so shocked.

What surprises me (and I don't know why it surprises me except perhaps I underestimate myself at times) is that I do care about what most of these kids learn. There are a few who can rot in hell, but for most of them I want them to learn something. I know that learning English in Korea is important to their future and I do care. It's just so frustrating when the kids come and go so quickly, and I have no confidence in what they're getting from the Korean English teachers.

It concerns me a bit to really care about the job I do here. If I care and it's a losing battle it will be quite depressing. My goals, the goals of the school, and the goals of the parents don't exactly match. The Korean culture wants to create a bunch of robots that are identical and who you just ram schooling down their throats. Not that I'm an expert at what goes on, but it's what I understand from talking to the kids and observing them. I don't really care about the textbooks and such, I just want to get the kids to talk some English. If they can achieve any comfort level speaking English (even if it's poorly), then they'll get better at it. I try to instill confidence in them, and not have them fear failure. I work very hard to get them to understand that I don't care if they make a mistake or ask a question about something they don't know. I'm there to help them. I wonder if I should have kept my head stuck in a computer.

Some days I feel like I'm making some baby steps forward, and other days I just throw my hands up and say, "why bother". Not only to I have to adjust to a culture, but I have to adjust to a whole new line of work where I really don't know the "rules". I'm not feeling sorry for myself, just feeling sorry that I can't just magically make it work.

I called the Australian guy in Gwangyang I went out with 4 weeks ago to see if he wanted to do something Saturday night. He's busy but we chatted for a while on the phone. So it looks like another weekend where I'll tell myself I'll go out to a bar Saturday night and probably end up staying in. I will try and force myself out. An adult student who was at the school for the first few weeks I was there mentioned 2 bars in town that gets a mix of Koreans and a few foreigners. I know where one of them is so I can try that. The guy I went out with last Saturday also mentioned a bar here that perhaps I can ask Kelly about with regards to the location.

I know I'm in the apartment too much. I think I've been using my cold as an excuse the last week or so. I'm out of here come Monday. I'll do the yoga already instead of just talking about it. It's a start. Then again, I can start playing Starcraft and killing things on my computer. Seriously, I can't just live for the weekends and going away (which will become more frequent as the weather gets better). I need a weekday life. Sometimes I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster with the ups and downs. The only difference this time as to other times on the rollercoaster is that I'm not really depressed. On the down days I just look at it and know it's a down day and that tomorrow will most likely be a different story. And being able to get pleasure from the tiniest things (a friendly hello from some little kid on the street or a hug from a kindergarten kid) also keeps me optimistic.

All I really know is that life is strange with lots of twists and turns. At least mine is. I'm sure it's quite straight for some.

And the other thing I really know is that I love and miss Elana and Leah.

ROLLIN', ROLLIN', ROLLIN'

Thank goodness for MP3's and illegal downloads. You have a craving for something you haven't heard in a long time, and in no time you're listening to it. Sing along with Frankie Laine as he entertains us with the theme from Rawhide:
laine
Rollin', rollin', rollin'
Though the streams are swollen
Keep them dogies rollin', rawhide
Rain and wind and weather
Hell-bent for leather
Wishin' my gal was by my side
All the things I'm missin'
Good victuals, love and kissin'
Are waiting at the end of my ride

{Refrain}
Move 'em on, head 'em up
Head 'em up, move 'em on
Move 'em on, head 'em up
Rawhide
Count 'em out, ride 'em in
Ride 'em in, count 'em out
Count 'em out, ride 'em in, rawhide

Keep movin', movin', movin'
Though they're disapprovin'
Keep them dogies movin', rawhide
Don't try to understand 'em
Just rope 'em, throw and brand 'em
Soon we'll be living high and wide
My heart's calculatin' [or Rawhide's calculatin' / His true love...]
My true love will be waitin'
Be waitin' at the end of my ride

Okay, enough of the free entertainment. At the moment I'm listening to "This Land Is Your Land" which everyone knows was written by Woodie Guthrie. This version is Bob Dylan, Joan Baez, Roger McGuinn, Joni Mitchell and others. I have no idea where it's from but what's really neat about it is that Joni does the Canadian version while the rest of them do the real American version. (From Buena Vista to the Vancouver Island).

Didn't post last night because I didn't have much to add and this cold that lingers keeps me a touch more lethargic than usual. I was pleased that some of you were touched by memories of Ian and Sylvia. And Beth, I admit I forgot just how personal that song must be to you out there in the Hat.

The thing I've learned in the last day or two that fascinates me the most has to do with the schools here. I've mentioned a few times how the kids are loaded down with work but the foolishness (in my humble opinion) doesn't end there. It seems that once the kids reach middle school, there are a few "strange" rules. The girls can't have long hair. There hair can't go below their shoulders. Naturally the boys hair can't be long. The girls (and boys too) can't wear earrings. And girls can't have curly or wavy hair. It must be straight. I did the late class tonight (the Intensive Class) and one of the girls told me that she hates her teacher and they had a big fight today. I asked why and the reason was that the girl made her hair wavy and the teacher was giving her hell for it. It's bloody amazing. If they are trying for a nation of robots, it isn't working. These kids are just like other kids, except they have more work to do. They can be wild, uncontrollable, funny, and they have personalities. Great idea for the school system to try and suppress them.

In the class tonight I spent time explaining the American Civil Rights movement and how blacks have been treated since slavery. What brought that up was they asked my family name. I said, "King". One of the girls said, "Martin Luther King" which surprised me. I asked if anyone knew who he was and a couple of them said they'd heard of him but knew nothing about him. So I explained slavery, sitting at the back of the bus, the bus boycott, Rosa Parks, colored and white water fountains, and the assassination of MLK Jr. I think they understood most of it and they were quite surprised by it all. They asked me if I didn't like black people. I said I like everyone (so I lied), it depends on the individual. I asked one girl if she didn't like black people (not that I've seen any here) and she said no. She likes Usher. Sometimes it's good to know a modern pop star or two so you know what the kids are talking about.

One girl said her favorite class is English. I said, "Yuck, why"? She said she wants to live in the United States so naturally I asked why. She said because she wanted to see musicians live. What a great reason. Move to the U.S. so you can go to a Backstreet Boys concert. Oh, to be 16 again. I think this one girl has a crush on me, but I can't be sure. I think it's cute and I'm flattered.

Another interesting tidbit is what most kids have for breakfast. It's not cereal and it's not toast. Rice and Kimchee seem to be the big hit. For those that don't know, Kimchee is some foul smelling vegetable that grows here. I was fortunate enough to taste it in Austin so I know to stay away from it. I love learning these things.

My 8PM student has been absent 3 days in a row. She's called to say she's sick but it means that today and on Monday I had to sit between 8 and 9:30 between classes. Tonight I was prepared in case and brought a book. I was reading when Kelly stopped in to the room I was in to say goodbye. Her son was at her house so she was taking off. I asked her if she wanted me to take her class but since it's grammar she got the other Korean teacher to do that. (Because as I said, when you want English grammar, ask a Korean).

Anyhow, her son is one and she hasn't seen him in a month. Her daughter has been living with her for the last few weeks. When I arrived they were both living in Seoul with her parents. I don't know how long they're staying here but I find it strange to be separated from young ones by choice. I was happy for her because she seemed excited to see him. She came across as someone with genuine human emotion of the good kind which I haven't really noticed. I don't know if she's cut out for running a school. The stress may be too much. I couldn't do it just because of dealing with the parents. I keep telling her everytime she mentions it that it must be hell.

Jack has been very cold to me this week and on the drive home tonight (with the students in the car) he asked me if why I thought something was bothering him. I wonder if Kelly said anything. I said I thought something was strange because he's always friendly and smiling and he wasn't this week. He then proceeded to tell me that he didn't think I worked very hard because I went to the hospital on Monday and was late for school. His English isn't very good but I think I understood him. He was saying things like I make much more money than him and he does so much for the school and I skipped out and let the kids down. He said we have to be like a family and if we are, then he can be happy with me. (I think that was it). I was really annoyed that he brought it up with kids in the car. I was glad he said something because it gives a chance to clear the air. I told him that I work very hard and take my job seriously, but my health and medicine come first. It's more important than the school or the kids. I told him that I didn't think I'd be hours and hours at the hospital and there was nothing I could do about that. I said if I don't have the proper medicine, I'll die. And if I die, I'll be no good to the school. (So I exaggerate a bit). He seemed to understand that and we made up. I think he understood that I have to take care of my health first and getting the medicine thing down is of the utmost importance. I wish we could have talked in private but I didn't want to work on explaining that. I'm glad it's resolved because I do like him. He's been very nice to me and quite helpful. We have tentative plans to go to Suncheon for dinner at the Outback. He said he likes the Outback and I said it's my treat. He just needs to let me know when. I suppose sometimes it's better to just keep my mouth shut and let things play out.

I think the other English teacher (Korean--English name is Jason) is quitting. His English is good but I'm not sure he understands what I ask him or explains himself properly. He's been saying he wants to get out and that he's tired of English. I told him he should get a different job but not to quit until he had something. (He has a wife and 2 kids). On Monday he said he told Kelly that he was going to quit and she asked him to hang on until they could talk. He would wait until she found a replacement. I asked if they talked and he said not yet, and it would be to discuss a timetable when he would leave. Then in the same breath he said that maybe he shouldn't quit and should wait a while longer. I've pretty much given up on understanding him or forging any kind of relationship on a personal level.

One of my favorite students quit the school because of him. They had a personality conflict. I really hate the coming and going. It's not too good to get attached to the kids because they can leave the school in the blink of an eye. One girl who always bugged me (and I thought she could be good) is leaving on April 1st and I'm sad about that. Her best friend who was in the class quit about 2 weeks ago and this girl now pays more attention and is always trying to talk in English. I felt I was getting somewhere. I felt we were building a relationship and 'poof', she'll be gone. That's another reason a regular school is better. You know it's a year or so that you have the kid so you can build a relationship (if you're lucky) and have a good effect on them. (Or screw them up beyond all recognition). Monday we were doing adverbs so I gave a demonstration. I can't draw so I drew pictures on the board which the kids told me were very bad. So I wrote, "I draw terribly". Then I said, "if you think I draw badly, you should hear me sing". So I sang. They covered their ears. I sing horribly. It got a laugh. Then we were doing some vocabulary and one of the words was 'cut' which they didn't know. I took a small knife (that is used to sharpen pencils) from a girls pencil case and grabbed her head and tilted it back to expose her neck and made a motion to cut her throat. I love those live demos. The kids get a laugh, I have a fun making them laugh, and they learn a bit. It's just difficult to be "on" all the time.

It looks like my next road trip will be next weekend (April 8th and 9th). I'll be heading up to Seoul to see the really big city (about 10 million people) and visit my Canadian friends Robert and Nyoung. Nyoung was the woman who's name I forgot but I found it on a piece of paper. I wrote Robert to see if that weekend would be good for him since he was to be my guide (not that I need one) and he said yes. He apologized for not inviting to let me use some of his floor for sleeping but I told him I understand. I wouldn't want anyone sleeping here and he has a cubbyhole too. I'm looking forward to going even if it's a four hour bus trip. I'll go early Saturday morning and get the Monday morning bus back here. I can hardly wait.

The do-nothing but chat job fell through. The workers have no time because they have to take some course related to their job. Maybe they'll want me later. I'm sorry it didn't pan out for both financial and social reasons. So now that I know for sure that I won't be working mornings, I'll sign up for Yoga. I didn't yet because of the potential job, plus this cold. I'll get Kelly to call the Yoga place and warn them to expect me Monday morning. It should be interesting, if nothing more. I'll find one more kind of class to do too. The one I want to do is only offered at 6AM or 9PM which are two times that don't work for me. I may have to do Tae-Kwon-Do. Or Ballroom dancing. Aren't they the same thing?

I took pictures of Elana and Leah in yesterday to show the kids. I can put pictures on my IPOD. I used the pictures from the modelling shoot they did a couple of years ago along with some regular ones. The girls oohed and aahed and wondered if they were models. I want to put Leah's dancing to "Mr. Roboto" on there for them to see. It's a great little video. Perhaps I'll post a link to it on the Internet and make the kids look at it and write a report.

Okay, it's 2:40AM so I should go read now. I think I'm up to date. Who knows what tomorrow will bring or what I'll learn. They taught me how to count to ten today in Korean, but I forget. And it seems that simple things like saying "thank you" change depending on the age of the person you're talking to. What a pain. I can't even get the simple things straight.

Tuesday, March 28, 2006

IT'S SO EASY TO BE IN LOVE

It was a long day. I went to Suncheon to go to the hospital there in hopes of discovering the non-existent English speaking doctor. I got to Suncheon and took a taxi to the hospital. It was a big hospital with lots of people there. I don't know what I expected, but that wasn't it. My trips to the doctors here have been in and out in about 20 minutes. Not today.

I go in the front door and see the front desk and there is one place that says, "Foreigners Only". Hey, that's me! I go there and this woman who speaks next to no English greets me. Why is there a "Foreigners Only" Desk when it's looked after by someone who only speaks Korean? Through the odd word and signs we get me signed in and another woman (a hospital helper I suppose) comes and takes me to the waiting room. She speaks no English. However, she carries around a piece of paper with some key phrases on it written in English and Korean so she can talk to me. One of the questions was, "Describe your symptoms"? She didn't ask me that, but the whole thing is absurd. If you have to read from a paper to translate "describe your symptoms" then I don't think you understand English and what's the point of asking that and having me answer. (That was a rhetorical question). Very strange. She did use one phrase that made sense and that was, "I want to take your blood pressure". Yes, statements make sense. Asking questions from a translation sheet is dumb.

It seemed none of the nurses (and there were a lot in this packed room) spoke English. They called a nurse from another area of the hospital who spoke passable English. I carry my presciptions around with me from the States so I can show them. She sort of understood what my problems were, but I don't think she understood that I didn't want tests or anything. I just had questions to confirm whether some medications I was told weren't available here in Korea, were available here. She said something about having to see multiple doctors. It seems that an Internist (or GP) doesn't exist. I went to wait for the Endocrinologist (in case you didn't know that's a diabetes doctor). Fine, you have to start somewhere. She told me that there were a few in front of me and it would be about 10 minutes.

An hour later I'm called in. The doctor had a good and trustworthy face so I got a good feeling from him. I asked him if he spoke English and he said both "no" and "a little". He wasn't too bad to communicate with and since the drug I was most interested in was my Lantus (Insulin) he knew what I was talking about. Yes, they have it here. The other 2 idiots I saw here in Gwangyang know nothing. I hate people who give answers without knowing. He was prepared to write 3 prescriptions for the areas he covers. That's fair. He told me I had to go to the cardiovascular section next. I said thank you and went out. I was told by a nurse to sit and wait some more. I saw the English speaker floating by and I went and got her. I asked her what the story was. She said they wanted to blood work and an EKG. I didn't want that, and I don't need that. I told her I had to be at work in Gwangyang in 5 minutes. (I had called Kelly and told her where I was and that I'd be late. She asked me what time I'd be there and of course I couldn't answer her because I'm sitting in a waiting room just waiting). She then said do you just want prescriptions and I said, "yes". She then took me back to the Endocrinologist to write me more prescriptions. I thought that was nice.

This doctor was very nice. He looked up the drug names I gave him while I sat and looked over his shoulder to offer assistance. He didn't mind. When his hospital search didn't bring them up, he went on the Internet to find the generic name for them so he could look for what they're called in Korea. The dosage sizes here are strange and not the same in North America. He said that the dosage sizes in Korea are smaller. I'm not sure that's true but I can't say for sure. You just have to take more pills to get the needed amount. (And more pills mean more money).

I think his database only showed things stocked in the hospital pharmacy because he said some drugs couldn't be found and I had already gotten those in Korea. We stumbled through with my help and got all my prescriptions. I was then escorted to the pay counter where they asked me for money. I said, "where is my prescription"? Needless to say there was a failure in communication and I was starting to get agitated. However, it seems you pay first and then they give you your prescription. So I paid my $13, got my prescription, and left. (Yes, you read that right. $13 for a doctor visit).

I think I'll have blood work done next month to see how I'm doing. I'll get Dr. Buzbee to fax me my last list of tests and results so they can do the same here. If some of the numbers aren't as good as they were before, I'll get my drugs from a Canadian mail-order pharmacy to replace the alternative drugs I'm getting. The only one I was worried about was the Lantus because it can't be shipped here because it takes too long and it has to stay cold. Now that I know for sure they have it, I feel better.

I then went to the city center to buy the used phone I didn't buy on Saturday. I wanted the phone number taken off my crummy phone and put on the new used one. They couldn't do that because the account isn't in my name. It's in Kelly's name. The store lady wanted me to call her. Now she speaks absolutely no English and she's trying to tell me to call her. She makes the sign for a phone call and points to some Korean she's written down. It finally dawns on me what she might be saying so I take out Kelly's business card and compare her Korean name to what the woman wrote. AHA! So I called and there was no answer so no phone for me today.

I then went to look for the McDonalds because I hadn't eaten today and it's 4:30. I know there's one and I couldn't find it. I broke down and bought 2 slices of pizza from some shop. I had two bites and threw them out. They were greasy and awful. And I couldn't find the Dunkin Donuts either. I had to get to school so I couldn't wander around for long. I missed the bus by 5 minutes so I had to wait an hour. I was quite late to school. I phoned Kelly from the bus station and told her the situation and said I should be there around 7:15. She said that my 6PM students were there and what was she to do. I said nothing. After all, what did she want me to do? (I really wanted to say that to her, but I held my tongue). So we got off the phone. I'm on the bus and at 7:15 on the nose my phone rings and it's her asking if I'm here yet. Stupid question. If I was there, she would see me. I told her I was within 15 minutes of the bus station (which is about a 30 second walk from the school). I got there at 7:30, finished that class, and then my 8PM student was a no-show. Isn't that ironic, don't you think?

I had a late class at 9:25. These kids are around 15. There are 3 girls and 1 guy in the class. The guy wasn't there. We didn't touch the book, just talked. I like classes like that. I think they get so much more out of it than just reading something in a book and answering questions. Conversation is real life. They're forced to speak English so I can understand them. At the end of the class I said I like this much better than the book and I enjoyed speaking with them. They said they liked this much better. And how many times do I get asked if I've seen Justin Timberlake. He's quite popular among the young ladies here it seems. They asked me who I've seen and when I opened with Paul McCartney (who they never heard of) there was no way I was going to mention anyone they knew. I told them I had taught English in Israel 25 years ago and they asked me how old I was. I said 26. They took a moment to digest that and then one girl said, "liar". I love an honest answer. I asked them how old they thought I was. The first girl thought and then said, "40". I said, "I love you". The 2nd girl also said, "40", so I told her, "I love you too". The 3rd girl made it unanimous, so she got an "I love you too" also. I then told them 50 and they seemed genuinely surprised I was that old and told me I looked much younger. They are either great actresses or sincere. I'll go with sincere. So I love them.

This cold won't die. And I think I'm really losing weight. When I was shaving this morning I thought my face looked thinner. Now I never notice anything so for me to notice that might mean something. I meant to find a scale at the hospital and weigh myself, but I forgot. I'm eating Pringles at the moment and I must say, they are one of the worst all-time potato chips. But they're the only American brand in the supermarket and they aren't expensive. Maybe it's because they're made in Belgium and imported to Singapore and distributed from the Philippines according to the can. What it adds up to is one lousy potato chip.

Who loves Ian and Sylvia singing "Four Strong Winds"? I do. I'm so glad I found it on Limewire to download. What ever happened to Ian and Sylvia? They split up (both personally and professionally) in the 70's but remained friends and did a reunion concert in 1986. That was their last concert together. Sylvia Tyson still performs as a solo artist and is a member of the Canadian Country Music Hall of Fame. Ian Tyson's last album was released in 2002 and he is a recipient of the "Order of Canada" and still does concerts. He just appeared in Toronto on March 20th and 21st at Hugh's Room. He'll be on the road again in Alberta (where he lives) in July. Who said that life doesn't imitate music? (Boy, this is one informative blog).

ian and sylvia
Four strong winds that blow lonely, Seven seas that run high,
All these things that don't change, Come what may.
But our good times are all gone,
And I'm bound for moving on.
I'll look for you if I'm ever back this way.
Think I'll go out to Alberta,
Weather's good there in the fall.
Got some friends that I can go to working for,
Still I wish you'd change your mind
If I asked you one more time,
But we've been through that a hundred times or more.

If I get there before the snow flies,
And if things are going good,
You could meet me if I send you down the fare.
But if you wait until it's winter,
It will be no good
'Cause that wind sure can blow way out there.

Sunday, March 26, 2006

PISS OFF!

I just took the garbage out. I take my garbage across the street and put it on the ground with all the other garbage that gets picked up sometime. It's an eyesore. Anyhow, I walk out of my building and I hear a sound like water running. I look to my left and there's a man peeing against the side of the building beside mine. Wonderful. I must be living in the high class district. Now I know that men sometimes need to answer the call of nature, but usually they're in the woods or something like that. Not on a residential street. It still is a far second from the time on the bus in Israel I saw a young boy who had to pee, and his mother told him to pee on the back exit steps of the bus. That was 24 years ago and I still remember it like yesterday.

I went to pick up my two prescription drugs yesterday after tutoring and I took one of my students in with me because I had a question to ask the pharmacist. I wanted to know if I get the other drugs on the prescription later or if I had to go back to the doctor and get the prescription again. Stupid question. I'm in Korea. Sometimes things are "strange" here. Obviously I have to go back and the prescription again.

It was a good thing I took the student in with me to translate because I was flipping out over something else. She wrote down the price for the two drugs and I was expecting about $50. It was about $350. I could barely get my words out I was so annoyed. I know a bunch of drugs cost me about $400 last month and this was only two so how could the price be that? It seems the idiot doctor wrote that I needed to take 8 pills of 10mg each daily for my cholesterol. Last time I got the drugs they gave them to me in 20mg doses. I actually need to take 40mg, twice daily. So she had given be a ton of boxes of these pills. What is wrong with these people like the doctor. If you don't understand what I'm saying then tell me. And how can you not understand the dosage when I write it down for you? Unreal. So I scrape myself off the ceiling and between my student and myself, the pharmacist agreed to give me one box of 40mg pills tomorrow. I didn't take any of the 10mg pills. So no cholesterol medication for me tonight. I don't think it will kill me. Now that I know the pharmacy where my adult student works, I'll take my business there. At least I can be sure that someone understands some English, and if they don't understand me they'll tell me.

After that wonderful experience I got a bus to Suncheon. I actually got on the right bus and got off in the right place. I'll be a native soon. I went early before meeting Dermot (from Australia) so I could look for a phone to buy. No one claimed to understand any English. For a country where learning English is critical to your future, it's amazing how many people don't speak it. However, I refuse to let language be a barrier. I saw a used phone for about $50 that I should have bought, but I didn't. I thought I'd look some more. I went into several stores. At many of them I was told I couldn't buy a phone. They were telling me that only Koreans could buy phones in their store. I was quite confused. I could have got a new one for about $100 but that would require changing carriers and their calling plan wasn't as good as the one I have now. I think I'll do a Suncheon run and get the used one.

When I went shopping this morning at the Home Plus (the big supermarket and department store in town), I went to look at the cell phones. They told me that only Koreans could buy them and I had to go to Suncheon. I'm guessing, but I think you have to go to a main store if you're a foreigner. I have no idea what the big deal with cell phones is but it's crazy. I will attempt to find out. How I'll find out, I don't know. I could ask Kelly but she'd probably say, "What do you want me to do"?

Dermot from Australia was a pleasant fellow. He's older than me (which was surprising because I'm old for a teacher here). He's been in Suncheon for four years but is heading back to Australia in about a month for a while. He may come back, he may not. He's enjoyed it but he wants a long holiday. He's not a teacher by training but did something in agriculture for years. He had a desire to go to Japan to teach but was told he was too old. So, as a consultation prize he took Korea. He works in an institute also, but it's a lot bigger than the one where I work with about 5 foreign teachers and 5 Korean teachers. I think he was surprised that I was older. He said he doesn't hang out with others much because they are so much younger and hard to relate to. And many of them drink as a hobby. He invited me over in the future which was quite nice. We'll see if he calls. If he does, I'll go. He brought me an English map of Gwangyang and gave me the Tourism number where they answer in English and have all sorts of information including bus schedules. Hmmn, wonder why Kelly never got me a map or any information. (That was a rhetorical question).

I did my 7AM tutoring this morning. I hate getting up at 6AM on a Sunday morning more than ever. The reason is that I usually work 3PM to 9PM so I don't go to sleep until the wee hours of the morning. 6AM doesn't fit my schedule, but the money I get for it suits my budget. It's quite possible to live on just my tutoring money. Of course, I couldn't travel on it too, but it's a big help. I'm still waiting to hear about my other job at the construction company to just talk to people. Kelly says they'll let her know so I have no idea if it's for real. I hope so because it's easy money and I can meet more people.

I seem to be getting a lot of taxi drivers now who speak to me in the little English they know. It always throws me a bit when an adult tries to speak English to me. I like it, but the usual is a kid coming up to me and saying, "Hello, my name is ???". I like that they're trying to talk to me.

I can't seem to shake this cold. I'm feeling a little run down. I did nothing today except tutor, do my shopping, have a nap, read, and look for stuff to download. My life has sunk to downloading movies but my choices outside of porn are slim. I now have a Simpson's episode to watch and the movie, "Monster-In-Law" with Jane Fonda and Jennifer Lopez. I went to download "Hustle and Flow" which is supposed to be quite good but I checked it while downloading and the place I got it had it titled wrong on the download site. It was "Anchorman" which I loved, but I've seen so no thank you. I'm using Limewire which is file sharing software that was recommended to me by Robert (mentioned before that I met him in Japan). It's pretty speedy and I've added to my music collection. I would have never thought that I'd be a person who would download a movie, but hell, the world is upside down.

When in school on Friday I was asking the kids what they had planned for the weekend. One of the girls said she would be doing some work (volunteer) at the YMCA. Then a different girl started singing "YMCA". I said, "you know that song"?. She said, "yes". All my kids had heard it. However, they thought it was Korean. There is a Korean version it appears. I have no idea what the lyrics are, but I downloaded the Village People to take to school to play for them. They were very surprised when I told them it was an old American song.

I bought a computer game today. Robert (again) had a suggestion that was pretty good I thought. When we were discussing school I was saying how so many of the kids love to play a game called Starcraft. He also plays it. He suggested I get it and learn it a little so I can converse in English with those kids about something they love. What a great idea. It cost me $25 and never in a million years would I have bought it. It's a kill aliens space kind of game or something like that. Not exactly my cup of tea, but as a teaching tool it might be useful. When I bought it this morning I was trying to make sure I was getting the right thing. I wanted the starter game. At Home Plus they found an employee who spoke a little English and he told me that I was getting the right thing. There are also add-on versions to be bought to expand the game. He said it's the number one game in Korea. I thought that based on my student survey of what they do. I just haven't had the desire to play it today. It will be like work. But if I need to rule the universe to get some English from some kids, I'll do it.
starcraft

Saturday, March 25, 2006

ANOTHER GREAT IDEA DOWN THE DRAIN

As I wrote previously, I was considering opening up a combination PC room/Singing room. Last night I learned from some of the students that they exist. Imagine my shock and disappointment. It looks like my school career will keep going know that this unique concept in entertainment already exists. (So that makes my idea not unique).

I got my alien registration card so I am now a registered alien. I am so proud.
alien card2

Canadian passport, permanent U.S. resident, Alien resident in Korea. A man of many countries, or a man without a home? Who knows.

I had another business idea prompted by this sign:
nose & nose

Maybe I should open and Ear and Ear clinic. If they can have a Nose and Nose clinic then why not an Ear and Ear clinic. Or a Throat and Throat clinic. Or maybe it's just that Korean's have serious nose problems. Twice the nose problems as other peoples. I'll have to check it out.

After I got my Alien card yesterday, Jack took me to get registered for health insurance. Needless to say, Kelly was wrong again. I can't apply. The employer has to apply for me. I just mumble under my breath. I'm tired of this crap.

I ran out of two of my drugs so I went to the doctor yesterday. By myself. No problem. It's great being a white face. I walked in and I don't have to say anything. They've seen me once and I'm probably the only foreigner they've ever seen, so they know me.

I sit and wait and then they call my name. (They even know that). I go into the doctor and say, "Remember me"? She says yes. I tell her I'm out of two of my prescriptions and could she please give me some new prescriptions. She says, "30 days" and I say yes. I want to keep this simple. She then takes my blood pressure (which was normal) and that was my exam. I leave and go to the front desk where they take my seven and a half dollars and give me a prescription print out for everything. Great. I only need 2 of them. I'll get the others when I need them which will be after I have my health card.

I go to the pharmacy and told the pharmacist that I only needed 2 of them. She speaks no English but I think she understood. I pick them up later so we'll see. I felt good doing all this by myself. I then went for a walk looking to buy a new cell phone. The one Kelly gave me is crap and keeps cutting out and the battery life is about 20 minutes. Kelly said I could probably find one for about $70. I was pleased to hear that because the one's I always see are about $300.

I go into 3 places and the cheapest I see is $200. No thank you. I'll look in Suncheon. I called Kelly to see if she could suggest a place I could look. I told her first that the phones here are expensive and she said, "What do you want me to do"? Maybe it's the culture, but I wanted to tell her to go fuck herself. Let me finish and ask my question. She says that a lot. "What do you want me to do"? I'm trying to just ask you a question and get information you idiot. Does it sound like I'm losing patience? Perhaps a little. I'm also venting.

At 5pm I had a class of animals. They were about 9 to 12 years old and knew nothing and are uncontrollable. Kelly said they were so I knew I had no hope. She said to just keep them in the room. That's it. No teaching, just be a jailkeeper. One boy sat with me and we read books as chaos reigned around us. After that class I told Kelly that this boy should not be in with the animals. He can learn and wants to learn. I don't know if she paid attention. I asked her why those kids were at the school. She didn't really understand what I was saying which was if you can't teach them why are we babysitting them. She said they were there to learn English. What a joke. But it's a business.

One of my favorite students in a different 5pm class has quit I believe. It seems the other teacher threw a marker at her the other day which she took offence to. I spoke to Jason about it (the other teacher) and he said that she had no respect and was mouthing off and putting the other students down because she's smarter. I was quite surprised because she is never like that in my class. I have no idea what goes on in these other classes. They're Korean with some English thrown in.

Tonight I'm going out in Suncheon with an Australian I met on the phone yesterday. I went to call the person I went out with 3 weeks ago to see if he wanted to do something. I couldn't remember his name so I saw this name and phone number on a piece of paper and think that's it. I call and a man with an Australian accent answers. Good. The person I had gone out with was Australian so I've called the right number. But he has no recollection of us ever going out. I give him the details and he says his memeory is bad but he's quite surprised he remembers nothing. He then says, "Was my wife with us"? I say, "I didn't know you were married". I then realized it couldn't have been him. Did I feel stupid. He knew who I was looking for, but we chatted some more and made plans to meet tonight. Strange way to meet people but beggars can't be choosers.

Yesterday was my first experience seeing someone on the street I knew while walking. After the doctor I was walking and my adult student came out of the pharmacy she works at to say hello. What a nice surprise. Made me feel like a local. Of course, I always have a little kid or two whom I don't know saying "hello" to me and then laughing. I'm glad I can provide entertainment so easily.

Off to tutor now. Then the big city of Suncheon. The excitement never ends.

Thursday, March 23, 2006

TOMORROW I'LL BE A MAN OF MANY COUNTRIES

I am a Canadian citizen and I have a Canadian passport to prove it. I have permanent residency in the United States and I have a "green card" to prove it. Tomorrow I pick up my Alien Registration Card which makes me a resident of Korea too. Boy, am I cool or what? Once I have that baby in my hands I can get my health insurance, open a bank account, and even get a Korean driver's license. I hope I can sleep tonight because the anticipation is making me think that these are the good old days. (There's no escape!)

Kelly called me just before noon to ask if I was ready to go to Suncheon. I can't win. She said yesterday that we were going at 1pm. She said we had to go then because Miss Moon had to go to the department store. What, Miss Moon again! What happened to our lunch date to talk? I didn't say anything. I wanted to say "drop dead" but I didn't. I'm polite.

They pick me up and there's another woman and her kid in the car. I don't know who she is and no one tells me. She looks a little like Miss Moon so maybe she's her sister. Who knows and further more, who cares? We go to the department store in Suncheon where the ladies are looking at kids clothing. Kelly tells me she needs 20 minutes. Fine. I sit. I wait. Then Kelly leads me to a restaurant where we ate before. I thought we were having Italian. She then said we could eat there or go for Italian. I said Italian. So we left Miss Moon and her sister? and drove to the Italian restaurant for lunch. I was quite surprised. She separated from Miss Moon. I'm always surprised and expect the unexpected.

I had lasagna. It was okay. The tomato sauce was quite spicy. They love spicy things here. I even paid. Kelly is always paying so I thought I'd be nice. Who said Korea was cheap. Lunch was about $27. Kelly is thinking about moving abroad. She asked me if Canada or the United States was better to live in. I asked her if she liked winter and she said she hated it. I told her southern U.S. then. She then said maybe Australia. She says she's not crazy about the culture here and doesn't really want her kids to go to school here. I asked her why she opened a school if she was thinking of moving and she said if she goes it won't be for about 5 years because she needs to save money. I don't think she'll go and I don't think she knows what she wants, but who does? (Okay, some people do). I told her she seemed unhappy but she says she's just exhausted. It's a long day with her daughter and cleaning the house and doing the school. She's hired a cleaning woman for twice a week. She doesn't like her husband helping around the house because he doesn't do a good job and they fight.

She told me I should marry a Korean girl. I told her I didn't know anyone. She said it's still early. (I think she's a little strange). She said the foreign English teacher who teaches at Posco (a huge steel company) married a local girl. He's 37 and she's 25 and she's ugly. I think Kelly thinks everyone is ugly. Maybe she's in competition with everyone else. I just thought it strange that she said that. So Kelly is moving to the U.S. or Australia and I'm staying Korea and marrying a Korean girl. And becoming a Buddhist.

The other teacher (Jason) who's Korean came into my kindergarten class today. He stayed 5 minutes and left. He couldn't take it. They don't listen to him either. Great big help, he was. What a joke. Now that I don't care about them anymore, I can handle it better. I'm very relaxed doing nothing in that class.

I played picture Bingo with the not-so-bright kids at 4. It was a big hit. They loved it. When they had the picture on their card, they would yell "Yeh"! If they didn't have it, they'd yell, "No, No, No"! I don't know if they learned anything (probably not) but they had fun. And they are basically well-behaved so I can't complain too much.

There were only 4 kids in my 5pm class. One of the missing kids is this girl who has an excellent vocabulary. I asked why she wasn't there and I got that she was mad at the school but they wouldn't (or couldn't) elaborate. I hope she doesn't quit because she is one of the bright spots there.

The kids didn't want to do the textbook and neither did I. I never do. They never do. They say it's boring and I can't disagree. "Game, game, game" is their battle cry. I told them no. They need to learn more. But all we did is talk so I think that's good. They talked some Korean amongst themselves but they'd talk to me in their limited English. They try and find the words to explain things to me so that's great. The books are so inane I can't stand them.

The boy on the right doesn't talk and if I do get a word out of him, I can't understand him because he's quieter than a whisper. The boy next to him is always goofing off. Even here, looking serious, he's just goofing off. The girl beside him is gorgeous and will break hearts in the future. Her English stinks but she tries. I think I'm making progress with her. The other girl was a pain but now that her best friend isn't in the school anymore, she pays more attention.
5pm1

I think one of the girls in my 6pm class fell asleep. You can see so many kids run down by the end of the week. It's terrible. You can't get angry if they're tired. If I worked as hard as they have to, I'd be falling asleep too. This girl is one of my favorites. Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday she's friendly. Thursday and Friday she isn't really friendly, just dead on her feet. I went to take some pictures of the class and the kids couldn't wait to pose:
noshow1
noshow2
noshow3

I really like a lot of these kids. They believe in peace.
6pmpeace

The Koreans love to do the peace sign. And I love the way they keep me on the go while I teach:
meteach6pm1

These 2 kids in my 6pm class are worse than useless. They're really good at saying, "teacher, I'm sorry" because I'm always asking them to be quiet. They mean no harm and it's impossible to dislike them, but they are a waste of time in any class. The one I'm beside is one of Miss Moon's daughters (the one who used her cell phone in class).
me&6pmstudents1

This is me with her sister (another Moonie). I like her. She's not a great student but she makes me laugh. She always starts out talking to me in Korean. She's the one who thought Leah's beautiful. I think this girl is beautiful too. The picture doesn't do her justice at all.
me&jennifer

I will use the charming Miss Kim as my final picture of the evening. For some reason I never learned her "English" name and she said I should call her Miss Kim. Kim is her last name for real and she loves I call her that. She is also the only student who's said "fuck" so far. I think it was when I said I never heard any kids swear in English. I think she was showing me they could.
miss_kim

I have more pictures and I hope to get more. So tomorrow is Friday and I have nothing planned for the weekend. I will probably call the Australian bloke I met and see if he wants to do dinner and a movie. I should just go to a PC room or a Singing room with some of the kids. I enjoy their company.

Oh, and you can eat fried grasshopper. Some of the kid's grandparents have. None of the kids have. One kid said they eat earwigs. Strange place.

Wednesday, March 22, 2006

ANOTHER DAY, ANOTHER WON

I rarely get a cold and I hate it. It's tougher than heart surgery. I woke up this morning after a lousy sleep and shortly thereafter I was napping. I really didn't feel like going to work but I did. I hope I didn't pass it along to anyone. I said to Kelly, "I hope that none of the kids catch my cold", and she said, "It's not important". You have to love compassion.

I took out the picture Bingo game for the kindergarten kids to try today. It was reasonable. I just used it to play and not as a teaching tool which it should be used as. I didn't have the energy. And I didn't really care. I just wanted peace and quiet.

I think (or hope) that because I feel so lousy that I decided I hate this job. But I think it might just be the cold. The schedule changed today (again) and now I work until 10:10 twice a week. I wasn't happy with that and told Kelly so. She said that I was still working within the number of hours that I agreed to (30 a week) and she was taking the kindergarten kids away. Actually not really taking them away, but I'll be in there from now on with someone else who will keep them quiet. I could have said no I won't do it and she would have accepted that. I think that as a foreign teacher you have power. I don't want to abuse it though.

The extra class is named, "Intensive Course". It's just some upper middle school and high school students. I was told they were among the elite students in the city. Their English basically sucks. I think that if you pass grammar and memorize words you're among the elite. Personally, I think you should be able to string a sentence or two together. The high school kid in that class goes to high school from 7:45AM to 9PM. I still am shocked when I hear that. One of the middle school girls finishes school at 4 but then goes to another school. I asked what school and what did she take. Another student told me it was "genius school" because she's a genius.

Oh yes, my lunch with Kelly today. Oops, didn't happen. Tomorrow. Yup, I'm sure.

When Kelly asked me if I have a cold and I said yes, she said that maybe it's because I'm lonely and need a woman. I said sure. She said, "what's wrong with me". I said, "you're married". She said, "but you know I want a divorce". I said, "Call me when you're divorced". Funny lady.

My adult student woman told me tonight she wants to speak English like me. I thought that was cute. I told her to catch a cold first. She laughed. There is hope for them when they understand the bad jokes. She's taking her English test for certification on Sunday. You can take it as often as you need because I think you need about a 90% mark on it to pass. But it is critical for getting the good jobs. I hope she does well. If she does pass, she'll probably stop taking the grammar class at the school but she'll need to stay in conversation in order to speak like me.

They don't have checks here as me know them. You don't write a check to someone. What they call checks are what we consider money orders. Weird. I have a bunch of them since payday has passed and I don't have a bank account yet for direct deposit. To be paid in bills only would be too much. The largest note is 10,000 Won and my monthly salary is 2,000,000 Won. Sounds like a lot. It's not. It's a pretty good salary for here, especially with no rent.

I had a half hour between my class that ends at 9 and the start of my new "Intensive" class. I went into Kelly's office on the computer and one of my students (Miss Moon's daughter) was still there. I asked her if she wanted to see a picture of my daughter. She said yes. I went to Leah's website and showed her. She thought you were beautiful. It sounded like she gasped. I wanted to show her my other beautiful daughter but you don't have a real picture on your site Elana. Although I love the pictures of your upcoming vacation.

This past weekend when I was talking with my new pal Robert and told him there was an Outback in Suncheon I wanted to go to but had no one to go with, he said I could go with my adult student. I said that wouldn't be right but he said you'd just be going for conversation. I've been thinking about it and there would be nothing wrong with it. But I'm not going to do it. Just too weird.

Just 11 weeks and 2 days until I make my visit to Texas. Good thing I'm not counting the days but I do wonder sometimes what those stick marks on the wall are.

Tuesday, March 21, 2006

I CAN'T BELIEVE I'M GETTING A COLD

I never get these minor illnesses. If it's not serious and requires surgery or radiation, then I shouldn't have it. Late last night I got a headache, my throat got sore, and my nose started running. No fun.

It's a pain having a washing machine that can only hold 2 days of 1 person's clothes and no dryer. I need to hang my clothes so I have to wait a day for them to dry before moving on to the next load. Four nights away means a lot of washing machine cycles. I'll be caught up tomorrow. How exciting.

In a shocking discovery today, I did apply for my Alien Registration Card and Multiple Entry Visa Update in Gwangyang. Kelly was right. I almost had the big one when I saw it was true. I'll have my alien card on Friday and then I can get my health insurance and open a bank account. I'll also get a driver's license. I'll be a Korean.

I've gotten many different stories on what drugs of mine are available here. Tonight I asked my adult student to find me the definitive answer. She works at a pharmacy. Why it took me so long to make that connection, I have no idea. Oh well. Better late than never.

I was in the Kindergarten class today and made little to no effort to teach. I didn't have the energy or desire. I feel bad for one boy because he's interested. The rest of them can rot in hell. Except maybe JuJu because she's so damn cute I can't stay angry at her.

I gave out homework last night to one of my classes. I just asked for a couple of sentences. I hate giving out homework because these kids have enough to do, but I was asked to give them some at times. Their parents like to see them get homework. Not one kid did it. I told them I wasn't pleased. I told them that I don't like giving them homework because I know they have enough school work but that I had no choice. If they don't do it next time, I'll be making a report. Yes, I'll be a squealer. Their assignment was to write a few sentences on what they wanted to be and what the job they want entails. Since I wasn't happy and knowing that I'm too soft, I made every kid get up in front of the class and give a few sentences orally to the class. Boy, they didn't like that but I think they were shocked I did that. No one talked while the student was doing his little speech for a change. Of course most of them were horrible because they've never spoken to a group in English as far as I know. It then came to me that this was a good idea. I will give them a minute talk to prepare once a week and everyone presents it to the class. So some good came out of my disappointment in them.

On my way home from school tonight Kelly told me she was thinking seriously of doing Yoga. I'm signing up when this cold goes away. I think she was serious. I get the feeling that she's not a happy person. She asked me if I was busy tomorrow because maybe we could have lunch. I told her that was a good idea. We can never talk at school because we're busy. I think we need to talk sometimes and keep the lines of communication open. And it would be good to talk when the purpose of it isn't for me to ask for something. Kelly also said it's a good idea if we got together more outside the school. We'll see what happens. I do want this to work out here in Gwangyang.

My ears are now hurting. It's nice to be complaining about something different for a change. That's all for now. This is a brief one and no pictures. I don't know if that pleases everyone. Maybe my life is settling down. Of course, now that I've wrote that, it will all go to hell.

Monday, March 20, 2006

PUSAN, MY LOVE

I returned to Pusan on Friday evening at about 6:30. I took a taxi to the hotel (the driver could actually find it) and entered it. It was a big hotel that must have been nice and the place to be 30 years ago. Not anymore. It was seedy and gave the feeling of dirty although it wasn't. I have no idea how they're in business. Their location is good, but that's it. The people at the desk had poor English but were as helpful as they could be with that limitation. The name of the hotel (in case you're ever in Pusan and want to avoid it) is the Kutje Hotel. Kutje means "international". I don't think people from all over the world are flocking to stay there.

My plan for Friday night was to find a people area and walk around a bit. Then I would go to a bar and have a few bloody mary's, a drink I haven't had since I left the States. After that, dinner and more walking. The people at the desk recommended I go to the city center. That sounded good to me. I had my choice of taxi or subway so naturally I chose the subway. Hell, I was in the big city. Pusan is a city of 1 million people and it's the main port city in Korea. (Gwangyang is the number 2 port city). It has a national university, a subway, American and American style restaurants, and all the things that made me feel like a hick coming to the big town. It's one of the nice things about living in a small place. You do appreciate the city and what it has to offer.

I got a map of the city, consulted the subway map, bought a ticket from the machine, and off I was. I exited at the Seomyeon station in the heart of the city. The underground was connected to an underground mall and entrances to a department store and a nice hotel unlike the one I was in. The thing I saw in the subway that I liked was this:
meeting place
I thought it quite clever to have designated "meeting places" in the subway station.

I was deciding whether to exit the station to the right or to the left. I saw a sign saying that if I went to the right, I'd go to a bookstore that I thought someone had mentioned as having English books. You can check them out at www.ykbooks.com. I'm a sucker for a bookstore so I headed out that way. I went up the stairs and outside and was met with the usual carts of Korean delicacies.
outside food

The streets are filled with these carts and the smells are terrific if you like Korean food things. As for me, they make me nauseous. So I plugged my nose and headed to find the bookstore. I found it and with finding it, my plans for the evening disappeared. The downstairs had an English section and I found a paperback by one of my favorite authors which I grabbed. I then decided I would get a book to try and teach myself Korean. I asked for help and the clerk had a clear recommendation for the #1 book for my purposes. It's just the first in a series of six and he said it should take me about a month. I laughed. I think I'm supposed to come out of it with a vocabulary of 1200 words. That would be great. It comes with a CD which is important because what I read and say doesn't sound like anything to a Korean.

The English section also contained a bunch of English textbooks to teach people English with. I got caught up in checking them out, looking for ideas on how to better my teaching or make it more interesting. I bought a few books with money out of my own pocket to use with my students. I would have got more, but the store closed. I even bought a picture bingo game. I bought "The Very Hungry Caterpillar" to read to the kindergarten class and maybe the slow learners that are one class above. It's a great storybook that both my kids loved. I bought a book of bad jokes that is used to teach with. I bought a book that presents an issue and gives different opinions to it. You then use that as a basis of discussion with the students.

The store closed and I started walking around looking for a place to eat. The drinking idea was gone due to hunger. I was accosted by two young ladies. They sold me a bag of cookies. They assured me they were very delicious. I couldn't resist buying them but I have no idea what the cause I paid into was. And I have no idea if the cookies were delicious because I had no desire to try them. But I like to help out young ladies. (They were about 15 I'd guess).

I was craving some American food. I didn't want fast food but a sit down place where I could have a good meal and a drink. I thought I'd stumble across one. I walked the streets of Pusan as a man on a mission. I walked long and I walked hard. I couldn't find anything. Here is one of the places I turned down:
live lobster

I finally came to an area that was packed with young people, bright lights, and restaurants. It was a tough decision but a man's got to go where a man's got to go and so I went.
outback dinner

If the place above looks it familiar, it should. Yes, I went to the Outback. That's the Outback Special which was quite expensive. It was about $22 which is quite a bit more than back in the States, but it was worth it. The steak is Australian beef. I thought it was delicious. The baked potato was rolled in salt which is good for my health. The bread tasted like Outback bread. The salad had corn in it which I don't like in my salad, but I survived. I had a drink before dinner but not a bloody mary. I asked for vodka and tomato juice but the waitress told me that tomatoes weren't in season. Of course there were plenty of fresh tomatoes in my salad and tomato juice comes in a can or bottle. But I had lemonade and vodka and it was quite good. I loved my dinner. For dessert I went to Baskin-Robbins for ice cream. I was full and happy.

I went back to my hotel and planned my sightseeing for the next day and then did the TV remote flipping routine. On the entrance card to Korea you sign that one of the things you're not bringing into the country is pornographic materials. I wonder if the government has noticed that there is a porn channel on TV. I noticed it as I was flipping. I was going to call the President of Korea and tell him of this outrage but it was late and I didn't want to wake him.

The next morning it was drizzling and overcast but I was not to be deterred. I was hungry and bought something at the bakery as I was walking to the subway station. I took one bite and spit it out. I don't know what was in it, but I was just expecting a plain roll. So I just went back to the city center and went to McDonald's for a Big Mac Brunch Meal. After that I bought a couple more Dunkin Donuts and went into a coffee shop and relaxed with my coffee and donuts. I could have gone to a Starbucks but I decided to try a different place. I then decided that perhaps I should purchase an umbrella because of the weather. I bought a Tote's collapsible umbrella. After all, it would have to be small to keep it in my apartment. (And having bought it, I didn't need to use it all day).

I headed off to the subway to go to my first destination, the Beomeo Temple. After the subway I had the pleasure of taking a city bus to get there. The subway charges based on how far you are going. One way ranges from 90 cents to $1.30 (or something like that). The bus ride was 90 cents. The Beomeo Temple was built by a great teacher of Buddhism, Uisang, during the Silla Kingdom Period in 678. It is situated at the eastern tip of Mt. Geumjeong. The Temple refers to an area of 3 levels with different buildings. The levels represent the different levels of spirituality you can aspire to with the highest level containing the place where you can do your major prayers to Buddha.

One of the people who either works or volunteers there approached me to ask if I had any questions after I bought my ticket in. (The ticket was about $1). Her English was pretty decent and I asked a few questions. She was quite nice. Here are the four pillars that mark the entrance:
temple gate

These four pillars mean something. You stand to the side of them and depending on how many you see says how evolved you are within your level of Buddhism. Or something like that. I walked around and it was beautiful and peaceful. I wish the weather was nicer as I would have liked to just sit a while and contemplate life. As it was I was trudging through the mud but it was worth it. Here are some pictures of the temple and area:
temple2
temple3
temple5
temple8

Here's a picture of a Buddha who came from Alabama with a banjo on his knee:
buddah guitar

Here's a picture of someone praying in the main temple area. I saw a few people praying and didn't think it proper to take a picture in there so I did from outside the door.
temple prayer

The praying is interesting. Some people first put money in a donation box. They then get a mat for their knees and put it down. The way they pray is to stand, bow, go to your knees, bow from your knees, stand up, and repeat. I saw one woman do that from the time I went in to the time I left that room. It must have been at least 50 repetitions of that. I have no idea how many she did. The purpose of the donation is to endear yourself to Buddha. The intensity of the prayer is left up to the individual. Some do hundreds of these bowing routines while others may do only 10 or so. It depends what you're praying for. You might pray for family, friends, health, wealth, or for inner peace which I think is the highest level of prayer. (I learned this from the lady I spoke with a little later).

This is an active temple with monks on-site. And because even Buddhists need to meet the call of nature, you can find these within the grounds:
temple rest room

When I got back down I asked the lady about the prayers and she explained things to me. She invited me inside their trailer and offered me a coffee which was very kind of her. We spoke for awhile and she told me some things and history of Buddhism. She asked me where I was from and why I came to Korea. She said that maybe I came to Korea to become a Buddhist. Who knows? Can one be an Atheist-Jewish-Buddhist? I enjoyed my visit with her and headed to get a bus back down the mountain. As I walked down I noticed the turtles. I have no idea what they mean except they were a great photo opportunity.
temple turtles

I headed back to the bus for the next part of my tour. I should have had an inkling of what was in store for me. (This one is for you Scott).
climbing store

There was a dining opportunity before I got on the bus. But there are times when "live food" just doesn't capture my appetite. (Look in the center of the store window).
live food

My next visit was to be to Mt. Geumjeong to see the Stone Fortress. The naming of Mt. Geumjeong is an old story, in which gold fishermen came from the heavens riding on clouds to swim in the Geumjeong creek. The mountain surrounds the city like a folding screen and symbolizes Pusan's history, culture and spirit. After I got off the subway in that area prepared to take another bus to get there, I noticed that it was just a short walk according to the directions sign I saw, so I decided to walk. It wasn't as short as I would have liked, and it was uphill. My legs were tired from the walking I'd done so far but I made it to the park where I had 2 ways to get up the mountain. One was to walk it, the other was to take the cable car. Guess which one I took.
ropeway

Yes, you guessed it. I headed to the Ropeway Station (which I assume is a direct English translation of the Korean) unless it's always just been called that and I made up the name "Cable Car". Here are some of my fellow Ropeway riders:
cable car family

The ride was quite nice and though the visibility wasn't the best, you could get a good view of the city.
pusan view

Once we got to the top I followed the signs to the South Gate. It wasn't close and it was uphill. I haven't hiked this much in centuries, if ever. My legs were killing me and my knees ached like never before. In fact my right knee still hurts. But I must admit it was nice to be outside by myself just hiking. I saw some people up there, either individuals or groups. Here is my first view of the South Gate:
south gate

Once I entered the gate I came across this carving which I have no idea of what it is.
mountain carving

Once inside there was still plenty of walking ahead of me. I thought there was a fortress to see (maybe there is) or a great wall (which there is). I walked and walked and walked some more.
mountain1
mountain2

I made it as far as I could go. I was near the top of the mountain and I saw what may be the wall but I'll never know. Here's a picture of some men resting at the spot:
men on mountain

Here is what may be the wall. It's an old wall and might not be as high as it once was. It goes on for 17 km. and is believed to first have been built over 2000 years ago. The fortress is the largest in the country.
mountain wall

There were some interesting rock formations to view. I wish it wasn't so misty but it was quite beautiful.
mountain rocks

And here I am surveying the area I had just conquered. As you can tell from the look on my face, hiking is serious business.
me on mountain

I then began my trek down the part of the mountain I had hiked to the ropeway. I thought I should stop for a drink of water on the way so I took advantage of the water provided there.
mountain water

When I reached here, there was a group having scoops of water. The man at the taps asked me if I wanted a scoop and I said yes so he filled one for me. I spoke with an older man in that group. His English was quite good and he asked me where I was from and if I was enjoying myself. I told him I came from Gwangyang but my accent is so bad that no one knows what I'm saying. In fact, I've realized I've been pronouncing it wrong this whole time. Luckily I know it's the number 2 port city so people know what I'm talking about and I now know how to pronounce the name of this place I live. The man told me that his group climbs the mountain and hikes every Saturday. It was a pleasure to speak with him.

We parted ways and I continued on. When I got back to the South Gate I took another picture of it.
south gate2

There were a couple of men there and they made conversation with me. I love the friendliness of the natives. They offered to take my picture at the gate.
me at south gate

I went outside the gate and met more people who spoke to me and inquired as to my situation. They were a group that also frequently climbs and hikes the mountain. I walked with them for a bit. They asked me how I got up the mountain and I told them I took the cable car. I think it was the funniest thing they'd ever heard. They laughed and then they would talk in Korean for a bit and I'd hear the words "cable car" and laughter. I didn't mind. I was happy to be able to provide laughter for them. We parted ways and I continued on.

It was then that I had a revelation. I've traveled quite a bit in my life to many different places. I've been quite fortunate in that. Many times I've gone to new places by myself for work and taken advantage of it to see new things. At those times I've always thought that I wished my family was with me to share the experience with. And that is true. But there is another level that I discovered. By being alone I could truly appreciate the brief encounters with strangers. I enjoyed and appreciated people stopping to make conversation with me, a stranger to them and making me feel welcome in their country. It's times like these that I feel good about being here. It is an adventure and a good experience. I love the kindness of strangers and it happens a lot here. My solitary Buddhist Temple and mountain hike were the things I came here for. I do enjoy my company. I don't want to be alone forever but there is peace and joy to be found by yourself too.

I went back down the ropeway. My knees were beyond hurting. I could barely walk. I made my way to the Starbucks near the University to meet Gord (who I met in Japan) for dinner. I took a taxi. I got in and showed the driver the map and pointed to the University where it was printed in Korean. The print is small and he couldn't read it. He then borrowed my glasses but that didn't help him. It seems that "University" is not a universal word. He kept looking out the window (we hadn't left yet) looking for someone to read the map for him. Finally a young man came along who looked at the map. He asked me in English if I was going to the University. I said yes and he told the driver. Another kind stranger and there are more to come.

I met Gord and we chatted and shared experiences. We went to dinner at an Italian restaurant which was okay. I still only wanted American food so Italian will do. I stumbled across a gelato place and we went there for dessert. It didn't say gelato in the window, just fruit ice cream. I made a good guess as to what it was. It was pretty good. Gord had sweet potato flavor. Weird. But sweet potato is very popular here in the strangest places. Ice cream and as a pizza topping to name two of them.

While talking with Gord, it was then that I gave some thought as to what I wanted to teach and where I would be if I knew before what I know now. Of course when you do something like this foreign adventure you can't know in advance what you'll get. If I had to do it over, I'd go to a city like Pusan and teach high school or adults. Gord said he had some contacts and asked me if I wanted him to inquire into getting me a job. I told him no. I'm not ready to give up on Kelly or Gwangyang as I wrote yesterday. I think he just wanted someone he'd made friends with to be closer. He's only been here 3 weeks.

We parted ways and I went to take the subway back to the hotel. I was consulting my subway map to see which track to get on when I was approached by a young woman who wanted to make sure I knew where I was going. I told her I was just trying to see which track to get on and she asked me my destination stop. I said something and she asked me if I said what it sounded like to her. It wasn't. But I said it was and I would just consult my map again. She said I should go to the track to my left and I said thank you and she left. It was very nice of her to approach me. I then checked my map and saw that I needed to go to the right, which I did. I'm standing on the platform waiting for the train when a different young woman approaches me and says she saw the 1st woman give me directions, and it was to the other platform and she was worried I'd get lost. I explained to her that my accent is terrible and therefore I was pointed in the wrong direction by the other woman. I showed her the subway map and where I was going to assure her I was in the right place.

Some strangers are just too kind. Once again, it's moments like these that I love. It makes me appreciate the small kindnesses I'm shown and I'm not kidding when I say that it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy towards Koreans. I've had a few experiences (such as the person who carried one of my suitcases to the bus station in Seoul) where I'm just so impressed with the thoughtfulness of others. As Blanche DuBois said, "Whoever you are--I have always depended on the kindness of strangers". Perhaps we all do without realizing it.

On the subway ride back to the hotel I also came to another realization. Koreans are cell phone crazy. They're constantly checking their cell phones to see if anyone called in the last 2 minutes. It doesn't matter that their phone has been in their pocket or in their hand and it hasn't rang. They still check them. Weird.

On Sunday I got up and took a taxi to the bus station to head back to Gwangyang. The taxi driver dropped me outside somewhere and I just started to walk towards the terminal. Apparently I walked through a gate I wasn't supposed to and I was stopped by a guard. Of course we couldn't converse but through gestures he asked me to leave my suitcase with him and go inside and buy my ticket, and then come back and get my suitcase. It's amazing how you can communicate without language sometimes. Of course there are sometimes misinterpretations. (To be explained in a minute). I got my ticket and retrieved my suitcase. I waited for the bus to leave which it did at 11AM so I thought I'd be back here at around 1:15. I thought like my voyage to Pusan, it was a direct bus. I got back to Gwangyang at 6PM. Two and a quarter hours to Pusan, seven hours back.

What happened was that we got to Suncheon which is another city less than half an hour from here. I approached the driver and said, "Gwangyang"? He spoke to me in Korean and did something with his hands. I replied in English and with my hands. I thought he was gesturing that it was the next stop. It wasn't. A couple of hours later we reach the end of the line which is some little town who knows where. The driver than approaches me and starts talking Korean loud and fast. I can tell it's the end of the road and I'm angry. I was supposed to get off in Suncheon and get a different bus to Gwangyang. Why didn't he make me get off the bus in Suncheon? He saw me go back to my seat. I was hot. Not all Koreans are so helpful. Just like anywhere, some are jerks and this bus driver gets my vote for jerk of the month. I can understand me making a mistake and not knowing what the hell I'm supposed to do, but I can't understand him letting me sit down in Suncheon when I had asked him about Gwangyang. And I was pronouncing it properly by now.

I got the bus from nowhere town to Suncheon and then got a bus to Gwangyang. By the time I got here, both my knees and my butt were killing me. I suppose that my time away couldn't have all gone perfectly. I had a fabulous time. It was a time of new friends, inner peace, new discoveries, and hope for better days ahead.

Today I returned to school with new hope. I had "The Very Hungry Caterpillar" for the kindergarten kids. Most of them didn't listen. My new hope for that class died. I left during the class and told Kelly that I wasn't qualified to teach kindergarten. I had no control and it was a waste of my time. I told her if she wanted someone to just sit in the room with them, I could do that. But I was through trying to teach them. She said that she didn't know what to do and that she would have to think about it. I know it's not ideal, and I wish I could do it, but without the Korean language they won't listen to me. The only way it could work is to throw any Korean adult in the room with me. The kids would be quiet and I could maybe teach them something. Who knows what will happen, but I won't be banging my head against the wall.

I trotted out the book for my next class which are kids who are not too bright in English. They enjoyed the story and that made me glad I got the book. I'm having trouble getting them to not just repeat what I say. Today I tried to teach them what "on, under, and in" mean. I'd say, "Is the pencil in the book, on the book, or under the book"? The class says, "Is the pencil in the book, on the book, or under the book". It took me about 20 minutes to get them to stop repeating me and try to grasp that I'm asking them a question. They may have gotten that but the question of on, under, or in seemed to be rather difficult for them. But they try so therefore I'll try. They're far from perfect but I can reign them in when I need to unlike the kindergarten kids.

I used the book of jokes with my adult student tonight giving her a couple of them. She didn't get them. I'm not surprised. It must be quite difficult to grasp humor in a different language. I showed her the other book of discussion points and got little reaction. I think she's worried that I'll make her talk. Sometimes it's like pulling teeth. Her listening skills must be getting good because I talk a lot but she's not too keen on talking. But she can talk when I "force" her too.

Tomorrow I'm going with Kelly to the Immigration office to get my alien registration application done. She insists the office to do it at is in Gwangyang. I have my doubts but I can't be 100% sure. I also need to get my visa changed from a single entry visa (once you leave you can't return without getting a visa again) to a multiple entry one. I have no idea why they don't let you do that when you get your original visa, but they don't. I can't understand everything.

This post has taken a long time. I spent about 90 minutes or so on it this morning and now about 3 hours or so. But I'm up to date and so are you, if you care. Life can be interesting and there is pleasure and contentment to be found in the strangest places.

* A note on the pictures *
I've started using flicr.com to hold my pictures. If you click on a picture it opens a new window that takes you to the picture. To the right of the picture there is a place where it says, "different sizes". If you click that you can see the picture in a different size or in it's original resolution. (If you care).

"You say you want a resolution". Oops, that's revolution.